You may have heard of a Toltec wisdom: the 4 agreements. It deals with the following principles, aiming at living a better life:
- Be impeccable with your word
- Don’t take anything personally
- Don’t make assumptions
- Always do your best.
Today, as you may have noticed from the title of my note, I will focus on the first agreement: be impeccable with your word.
In reality, this agreement advises you to speak with integrity. What does it mean, really?
I deals with saying only what you mean, and avoiding saying bad things about or denigrating people.
It does seem obvious and simple!
I agree with you.
I will simply suggest that you pay attention to your speech patterns and words for a day, a week, whatever the circumstances. Your way to speak to others and also to yourself. What do you say? Do you say you’re stupid? you’re good to nothing? You don’t understand a thing? You’re not capable of doing it? Do you keep on apologizing all the time?
I know I did that – and I still do sometimes.
This agreement shakes the very way we express ourselves because it reveals the way we perceive the world and how we perceive ourselves in this world.
To change, small modifications are enough. One step at a time.
I invite you to click on the link here – you will discover comic strips that will show you another way of doing things – in a fun and pertinent view on the very use of the words “thank you” and “sorry”.